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Twelve year old Amelia is sat on my study chair eating her KFC .Her aunt , who brought it in, is an arms length away from her. She has now looked at the black and white portrait above my bed about 7 times already. She tilts her head now , as she stares at it and the ferry lights around it and says ‘your room is aesthetically pleasing.’

‘Thank you ,’ I say . She nods and bites into her chicken .‘I bet you’re one of those people who only eat organic food and stuff.’ Her aunt, embarrassed ,nudges her. I laugh and say ‘I’m actually vegetarian , been so for 6 years now . Well i was vegan for two then…’

‘See I knew it !’ She interrupts . ‘Wait does that mean I can’t eat chicken in your room…’ And the evening went on. Her voice and my laughter filling the spaces between us. Reminding me of the innocence I once had at 12. Reminding me also that I’ve become the annoying health conscious tasteful 20 something year old I secretly always wanted to be .

How strange? I thought, that a 12 year old should see me with such ease and more clarity than I often do.


You abruptly ask ‘Will you marry someone from Botswana then?’ As if nothing else matters, like there would be no other criteria. Stunned, I carefully say ‘not necessarily.’ But this is how I know you were listening when I said I cannot love someone who cannot pronounce my name properly .  We laughed then, but I suppose I could have been more careful then too.


‘That’s why I stopped going to church,’ he says . ‘There is no love there.’
Heartbroken, I say something like ‘That is sad because God is Love. So if there was no love, then God wasn’t there.’

To this day, I wonder if I said the wrong thing because it’s been years now and he still hasn’t gone.





  1. Maatla
    January 14, 2018 / 10:56 am

    “Reminding me also that I’ve become the annoying health conscious tasteful 20 something year old I secretly always wanted to be “ hahaha I love this line, at lease some of us have attained this goal

    • Kam
      January 14, 2018 / 11:27 am

      😂😂😂 I was like ‘guess I’ve achieved a lot more than I thought’
      Satisfying lol

  2. January 16, 2018 / 8:54 am

    I’d love to see the black and white portrait above your bed. If you can, please feature your room as interior inspo maybe i could learn a thing or two about making a room aesthetically pleasing, lol.
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    • Kam
      January 16, 2018 / 6:28 pm

      Oh that’d be interesting wouldn’t it ? I’ll see what we can do.

      • Kam
        January 18, 2018 / 3:14 pm

        Happy new year Grace. ❤️❤️

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